Venting Thread, or FML!

[Aegidia]

My supervisor wants everything done NOW, or preferably yesterday, but hardly ever sticks to deadlines herself - including the deadlines we need her to stick to in order to get everything done on her schedule. So now I was late submitting an important report because I just couldn't get her to give her ok on time, no matter what I tried. This could potentially delay a project by a month. I am so fed up with this.

[kryssiecat]

Aegidia said: My supervisor wants everything done NOW, or preferably yesterday, but hardly ever sticks to deadlines herself - including the deadlines we need her to stick to in order to get everything done on her schedule

Keep notes. Write down every single time she causes a delay or misses her deadlines. Then if it ever happens that you get crapped on, you've got a full defense. This situation is rough, I don't envy you. Best of luck! Here's an extra life

[Mishatu]

-grumblegrumble- Minor venting ahead

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I am so bloody tired of my parents not understanding what having depression means. Yes, I pick at my skin. Yes, I have some bizarre neuroses. No, I can't bloody help it. I swear, I'm about to lose my temper. My dad basically told me to do a thing a specific way tonight, but I had already made plans about how to go about it that I'm comfortable with. And then he goes and mentions my car bumper that's scratched up and that he believes needs repair. Imo, it doesn't affect how it drives, so I don't bloody care.

Also, I can't tell my parents anything about how I'm feeling because I know they'll judge me. If I tell them that I've really been wanting to commit suicide, they'll look at me and ask why I'd want to do such a thing, since I have so many good things in my life, and am I just too spoiled? I don't want them to point out every reason why I shouldn't be depressed, I want someone to acknowledge that I can't help it and to help me cheer up by doing fun things with me or telling me silly stories. Or maybe just letting me do my crafting and reading in peace without worrying about being scolded for "not doing anything". I may be 22, but every time I have to stay in this house, I feel like I'm 10.

I need these next 2 years of college to go by fast so I can move out. The stress from my parents (implied and explicit) is easily the primary factor in my depression. The fear of disappointing them is so massive... There are many days, especially right now (post-finals), when I think it would be just so much simpler to end it all. But then my boyfriend says nice silly things, like when I told him if I died because of a tornado (severe weather in my area) that he would have to finish all my crafts, so he says I absolutely CANNOT die because I have far too many crafts for him.

[blackmageheart]

-grumblegrumble-

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I understand how you feel, in many ways. It's not a parent thing, I think, but rather a lack of understanding from people who have never dealt with depression themselves. Or skin picking for that matter (something else I understand about). My mother and stepdad, are just like this. I tell them anything and their answer is something stupid like "a part time job will cheer you up" or some other nonsense. No it bloody won't cheer me up! ARGH
Also just want to say how awesome you are for going to college despite your illness! Hang on to your boyfriend, sounds like he is nice (and silly) and absolutely do not leave your crafts for him to finish!
One last thing, check out this website for advice on skin picking - http://trich.org/ I've found it really helpful and I bought a spinner ring from them which is good to fiddle with.
Sorry for my practically incoherent attempts at help, I meant well. And I do hope you are ok!

[SheWhoRoars]

-grumblegrumble- Minor venting ahead

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I'm really sorry that everything is being so crappy for you. I can't help much with the skin picking, I don't think I have much experience with that other than petty nail biting, which can't really compare. If you ever need to talk to someone who understands, shoot me a message, and I'll be happy to lend an ear (or I guess eye) and maybe crack a joke or two! I love you!

My anxiety has been acting up again, and it's just super annoying, because I want to go out and meet people and do things, but I can't because I'm stuck at home wanting to crawl into a hole. I'm just super stressed, and so everything feels like it's falling apart, and I feel like I can only concentrate on the things that I can't or don't have right now, which just sucks. I guess I'm just frustrated with my own limitations.

[Aegidia]

I do not. like. my mother in law. This is mostly because of how she treats my boyfriend, but also because she's not nice to me at all. Trying to be a good girlfriend, I always make sure to have something for her when she visits us in this country (my bf and I are both expats here). This time, I gave her two handembroidered, handsewn cushion covers. She unfolded one (they had different designs), looked at it once and said 'very nice, thank you' then folded it up again, put them back in the bag and put them away. Her expression didn't change the entire time. She didn't even look at the second one. To be on the safe side, I had my bf explain in their native language that I had done both the embroidery and the sewing myself. She listened, nodded, and changed the subject.

I get that not everyone enjoys handmade gifts (and wooooow is she off my list of gift-worthy people), but at least fake some enthusiasm or appreciation to be polite, right? I'm probably letting this get to me more than I should... it's just the latest drop in a bucket full of small slights and insults. Like, the only thing she asked about what I do all day the first time we met was "So is it easy for you to get another job after this?" (seriously, she didn't even say "[Son] told me you do X." first). Or that time she cooked for us and looked me straight in the eye, said "[Son] told me you don't like [food item]." (which I confirmed), and then proceeded to serve dinner which consisted of three dishes whose focus was on said food item.

[Eliste]

Have you considered that some of it might be language difficulties? I'm not excusing her behaviour, but I know a lot of people from various countries who come across as brusque and rude due to their lack of English skills.

[SunkistShiek]

Guh! My child is being a little hellion lately! She's not been listening to anything my husband or I have to say, she's been terrorizing her new kitten, and various other things which are driving me crazy. Yesterday, she got into my flour and dumped all of it onto my bedroom floor (ALL of it). Today, she somehow spilled red soda all over the living room floor, got into my paints and painted black lines on her legs (to make her into a tiger), and while she was taking a bath to get those off, she put about an inch of water all over the bathroom floor.

Funny story. When I was young, around three years old, I got up one morning and went down to the kitchen and poured ALL of my parents spices into a big pile on the floor. Around the same time, different morning, I got up and got into the board game cabinet and dumped ALL the games out on the floor. After my mom spent roughly ten hours sorting those out, my parents decided to put two baby gates on top of one another in order to keep me in my room in the morning. The first morning they did that, my parents were woken up to my little three year old voice shouting, "How do you get these god-da*n gates down?!"

LOL That's hilarious!

When I was younger, my mom used to use these tablets that freshened the toilet (I think) which consequently turned the toilet water blue in the bowl and the tank. One day, I wanted to look in the tank at the blue water by myself but couldn't handle the weight of the lid, so it fell, broke the tank, and spilled the pretty blue water on our tan carpeting (back when carpet in the bathroom was a great idea...and tan, no less). So that, paired with me putting Soft Scrub (which is a cleaner that has a bleaching component in it) all over the kitchen carpet, that was a very dark brown, thinking I was cleaning it....I was equally minx-ish.

[Aegidia]

Have you considered that some of it might be language difficulties? I'm not excusing her behaviour, but I know a lot of people from various countries who come across as brusque and rude due to their lack of English skills.

Ha, if only. Comparing how she speaks to me and bf in English with how she speaks to others in English, and how (according to bf) she speaks in their native language to him, that is not the issue. But hey, I'm gonna try the 'play dumb' mode where I keep being nice to her and pretend not to notice when she's not.

[cirestan]

Home improvements and vacations have prevented me from stitching for almost two months! GRRR...